Hi deepdive - Welcome to our corner of the DB world. Seems like Jen pretty much has it covered. I would also add just push through the loneliness & find you - the you your W fell in love with. But at the same time - you need to detach - so you have some type of sanity.
Me39, XH45 Kids 3 dogs, 2 cats Divorced 6/4/09 Tricky thing is not how you live, but how you live with yourself. (POTC)