Hi Daisy, Not JWS, but, only ever with my wife, and yes, when my love tank was unusually full, I would struggle with the fantasy of a wild crazy single life. I always tempered it with the reality of what single life was like before I met my wife. It sucked, big time.
I made peace with only being with my wife. I felt like it was a good trade, fully dedicated to this one woman in exchange for the love I'd never known before. Of course, now, it seems like I got screwed in that deal. She's out running around playing like she's 22 again while I've got the kids 24x7.
Yeah, I detect a little bitterness at how things turned out. I know there are times I feel extra screwed. I feel like I followed the conventional wisdom, what religion had to say and then 18 years later, I had my heart ripped out of my chest. So, I'm pretty certain that if I end up divorced, I'll be going a little bat-sh*t crazy.
Sorry for the tirade. I certainly went through a phase like that. But, because of my Christian upbringing and because before I met her my life seemed hardly worth living, I made peace with only being with my wife and took great joy in being with her. There was no technique that I used except insecurity and shyness, but, that isn't something you can really do proactively.
