You are right Jen. The sad thing is that I asked him why I had never seen him play before and he replied that it was because I did not want to. It hurt that he was right. In the past, especially in our first year of marriage, I rejected anything he wanted to do or did that did not involve me. So I missed out on a lot (like being there to support him when he plays sports) and now I have even more to make up to him. So I apologized for the past and asked if I could come watch him sometime. Right away he asked if I wanted to come down and see him tonight. I couldn't tonight so I am going to try to go next week. A big 180 for me!
A lot of the things my hubby does I consider "nerdy" and therefore get embarassed too easily. However I have realized that I need to just let it go and let him be who he is. I married him and then expected him to change? Lol. Silly me. My counselor even asked if he was my "project." That was an eye-opener. I think the reasons we had so many problems with conflicting interests is because:
1. We lived an hour away until we got married so there was time for each of us to do our own thing and then we moved in and everything changed
2. He seemed to think that I would just do everything he wanted to do, he didn't get the fact that he would always have things that I had no interest in
I want to encourage him to take tennis lessons, work out and take swimming classes. Maybe if I took the classes he might join me? He encouraged me to take swimming lessons and has taken tennis with me and wants to continue. Now for the gym. We have membership at a club so it's just too simple for us
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
