My H defenitely admits that he has a drinking problem and often says he doesnt know why he drinks so much, but he just enjoys it. He also admits that he shouldnt drink and drive because he doesnt want to injur anyone else, but he still does that too.
I have gotten to the point where I dont point out the drinking problem to him anymore, and he seems to do it more himself now. If he wants to go out, I say have fun and be safe. I know I have no control over him and I cant change him. We dont even live together yet, so its hard for me to always know what he is doing.
I feel like becuase we arent living together yet, I can live with his lifestyle. But if he were to want to move in together again, I feel like there would have to be some more boundaries. He is not ready for that yet though.
There have been a lot of good improvements lately. He has started to stay here all but about two nights out of the week. Those are the nights he has his gigs (mon. and tues). We have been doing a lot of fun things together lately, like golfing and going on vacation and starting up two new bowling leagues. We have amazingly found a nice balence between hanging out doing his choice of activities and others days doing mine.
My H just did a roof job and instead of taking cash, he exchanged a hot tub and a boat for his labor. Both items are kindof old, but in good shape and still running smooth. So he asked me if I wanted to put the hot tub in the back yard at my townhouse since he is living in an apartment. I said sure, we have been wanting one for a while. We got it cleaned out and filled up the other day and all we need now is for someone to do the electrical. I cant wait! More excuses for some romance. Yeah.
So life is pretty good right now, despite the issues that seem to slowly be healing. Take Care, TIPPER
