Ohh Jen...I think in order to be in a M you have to both Love & Hate your spouse to some degree. It can't be perfect and it can't be all bad...it's finding that middle ground to stand in.
I think that a lot of women are control freaks...not all of couse but a lot. And that we'd be happier with our lives if we weren't. I think I've let some of it go but need to let more go over time.
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
Sep that part about your Mom and Dad really makes me think that lifes to short. If only they had know that they prob. could have worked it out. I'm sure your SDad is great but it's not the same is it?
Oh yea my mom does get sad at times thinking "if only she knew"...then I have to talk her down about all the positives that she does have now.
No it's not the same at all....I don't call him step-dad or anything...she married him when I was like 23...a bit too old to re-adjust. He's just my mom's H to me.
I know I have learned to let a lot of it go but I still go a ways to go. I read a book called The Surrendered Wife and it was all about controlling wives and how much we can change our husbands just by learning to be respectful and a huge part of showing respect is by letting go of our desire to control them. I was a mothering, smothering, nagging pain in the butt! I'm trying really hard to let it go but I am finding it really hard, especially when I only see him a couple of times a week. But I guess a couple of times a week is a good amount compared to some.
