Do you know what he is struggling with in his life, so that you could admire the way he is dealing with it? Especially if it can be a 180 that you are respecting his decision (when previously you would have critised)?? I think showing that you respect him is pretty important... Even respecting his decision to leave.
I mean the last time I was really in the loop it seemed like he was struggling with many things... the logistics of his career (constantly traveling to different states to perform), his living situation with a bitchy male roomate, his finances, the future of his quartet??? But I'm not sure what he's struggling with right now? I know he told me a couple months ago he'd decided to stay with his roommate in their shithole apartment and in the past I think I would have encouraged him to move. ???
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You know T, he could really have wished that he didnt leave you, but couldnt face up to talking about it with you, especially as you never had that final conversation. Is it possible that he needs closure? You could have a closure conversation where you drop into it that you would be open to trying again if you ever ended up living in the same city (or something, which gives you an exit)...
This is so interesting! I thought that the way I was acting was making it easier for him to come to me and open up instead of harder..??? Your suggestion that I'd be interested in trying again if we lived in the same city-or-something is also interesting. I get a *feeling* that *maybe* he would be interested in trying again if I 'ended up' in NYC, because he has asked me several times what my plans are. but I could be overanalyzing.
