Hope you had a great weekend jak!! Give those babies a squeeze.
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
Our friend said that he will keep H talking about things and tell him that he can't hide from it and that he can talk to him or to talk to a C but not to hide from it and work on it.
SO2 Busy weekend I'll post on that though when I have more time.
Nik
Things are just running along right now as usual but. Not bad but could be better if he would talk.
Haven't talked about Retro yet as to much is going on that I'll post on later.
AMY!!!!!
I am in tears here. I needed the kick in the ass to keep me from leaving when i really am not ready to give up yet. Especially after H's comments about YES the vehicles and the two of us working all the time. I see that H has been a great povider and have told him this many times. He has done so much for this family and we have it pretty darn good, we just work extra hard for it. Im'e glad for my children to see our work ethic. H is so very knowledgable in so many things. Everyone calls him for something.
It has been a long time and H doesn't seem to want to work on himself at all Just wants it to disappear. It' won't and I think he's starting to realize this and thus talked to friend and told him he/we were having problems and that he caused them. A start I think and I shall stay to see what happens. I am going to talk to him about Retro.
I am trying to figure out if I should be doing something different. I do confront him when nessesary hoping that it will make him think about his issues. I think it works to a point.
At this point he still says no to C I will give him the literature for Retrovaille and hope that he will at least do that. I can hear it now though, it's on a weekend that he's scheduled to work.(he does have vacation days)
In your OP is he in the end stages? Im'e just wondering not that we can't count on that but he went from being more present in the R to withdrawn more and more depressed.
Iv'e read what you have posted to others and wanted a point of view from someone who had been there that can keep kicking my rear back into the ring.
I had read your post when you were ready to throw in the towel, Ime glad you hung in there. One reason I looked you up. You are one interesting chick!
Thanks
JAK
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
Saturday oldest D that just had the twin D's went into the Hospital Saturday night and had to have gallbladder surgery on Sunday morn.
We had the twins all day Sunday and in between that SIL's called me to go check on MIL because for some reason they think since I work in a health center im'e a doctor (which I wish But NOT). MIL is in severe pain and had to call oncologist and they had to start her on pain meds for the cancer. Had to taker half a day off work when I called the oncologist this morning as they said they wanted to see her. It is worsening and they put her on more meds to go along with what they gave her . I went to pick the meds up and they weren't covered by her medicare plan so now I have to appeal that tomorrow.
To top it off for the last month I have on and off been able to smell a sickly sweet smell from my H's breath and last night it clicked. DIABETES. Sure as hell I go into work today and talk to Doc and thats what he thinks too. Brought home a test kit and have to talk to H tonight and check it. Just what he needs right now is something else to make him feel old and no good.
We'll see how he takes it and maybe it's a fluke but I don't think so.
One good thing about working at the office is I have H's permission to discuss any thing with his Doc and doc is going to order blood work and he is doing everything right down to testosterone levels(which I don't think is an issue) but doc knows what the deal is with him and will help all he can.
SOOOO that was my weekend can anyone beat that? (I certainly hope not!!!)
HOLY CRAP I forgot how hard it is taking care of two newborns at the same time as it's been almost five years since my sons were born. It took Four of us including son with twins to handle it part of the time.
Ok talked enough for one day.
JAK
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
Wow a lot going on!! I'm so sorry. When it rains it pours, huh?
I hope you can get your H's health figured out soon. At least if it is diabetes you're finding out now and can take steps to control it.
((Jak))
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
It will be fine and if I didn't have some sense of humor about all that has been going on I would go crazy I think.
I tested H's blood last night and this morning and it was ok so we will see what the blood work brings but the smell is a distinct one and we wonder whats up. H was subdued after I told him and at first I thought he was upset with me but I asked he said no and I ket it go.
JAK
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
This is my sanity. Things are ok and getting more back to normal. H had Blood work done today so we will hear on that by tomorrow.
Gave H the Retro info this morning to look at when I left for work so that he can think about it. Really not sure what to do if he refuses as he is not wanting to do anything at this point and don't think he ever will if he doesn't do this.
I hate to keep bringing anything up because if he is at the point of nearing the end I would think that I need to keep my trap shut so that he can come the rest of the way through. Amy, any thoughts on this?
JAK
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
You are such an inspiration and have handled this all so well.
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
