Interesting conversation. When my H was building up to and having an affair, he was not a nice person to be around. I hated him. I wanted to save my marriage primarily for the kids and the financial benefits, not because I felt love towards him. but then we reconciled. And he became a nice person again. Nice to be around, not yelling and getting angry all the time. So where did that other guy come from, and where did he go? I think people have the good and bad sides in them all along. But when they don't respect the person they are with, they present the bad side. When they do respect the person they are with, the good side comes out. It is a choice that they make to act with their bad behavior.
