It doesn't bother me at all that you don't agree. I'm not in your shoes and you are not in mine so neither of us fully understands how the other thinks or feels. I've come to learn that some things cannot be known until they are experienced.
No, I'm not a family law attorney. I did study some law, but it was environmental law. I now work in education.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.