Hmama-Not surprising that you've heard almost the same thing, the script is about the same when there is an affair. Just more shift the blame/revising of history.
I do think my H brought it to a whole new level the other night, one that I don't see that often here, although I've read some pretty incredible stuff.
I've been over to your thread, but it's locked right now so I couldn't post.
I'm still looking for that update L. Thanks for thinking of me.
Like one of my friends asked, "Now, why did you think going out with H was a good idea on your BD?"
Well, actually, I had changed my mind after his phone call in the morning & thought better of it until I ran it by someone who said it may be rude to cancel at the last minute. Up until he arrived in the afternoon I thought I would cancel, but did nothing, so off we went.
It continued the next day when he arrived to P/U S5, telling me he was going to be keeping him overnight since he didn't get to have him the night before & there's not a thing I can do about it. The only thing he regrets about the night before is the boffing comment, he only said that to hurt me by throwing it in my face. Didn't apologize though, not sure that one would matter anyway. I just let him storm & bluster around gathering stuff together, trying to stay calm & stay out of his way.
A couple hours later I got a VM saying he'd have him back by 5 or 6pm.
Nothing all day, although he'll be here to p/u S for dinner soon.
I don't think I can make a recovery from this, it was just too brutal. He definitely degraded himself & I can't picture getting back to a place where I respect him again.
My 5yr S had the right idea though, "Mommy, are you sad b/c daddy ruined your birthday."
I said I was a little sad, but I'm not now.
"Well, are you going to have another one? If you do, you can have a good one next time."
