Help, it seems my 35 year old wife is in MLC #12

[Gman3388]

I saw that Frank....seems damn odd that she cried about cleaning the house. Hell I wish my W would clean...the kids and I do it.

[Gman3388]

In my case I think it is currently manifesting through the dog issue. W is unusually quiet at the moment too. She hasn't called the kids all week. I'm starting to wonder what is up.

What will happen with the Dog? Do you have a buddy that can take him?

[Imageer]

At the moment I have no choice but to have him live at my office. I feel a little guilty but it's not really that bad though. He has company all day long where he would normally be at home alone for the day and then he sleeps at night.

[missmyfriend]

Frank, my W was by last weekend and asked where the stainless steel cleaner is so she could polish the refrigerator!! I said she shouldnt have to do that and she said she didnt mind so I handed her the cleaner, a rag and let her polish it.

It has been a long time since she helped clean anything in the house. It will be two years this next Christmas that I can recall.

I am sure there is a myriad of thoughts regarding a simple act like that. It is so hard to pin down the root of the thought process. Whatever it is, I am happy for it.

Imageer, I hope everything works out for your dog. I hope he wont have to go.

[Gman3388]

HeyIma! Where ya be?

[Imageer]

W came to my new place for the first time today. Actually, that is the first time she has been at this place or the old house since she moved out. She did come to the old house to pick up some stuff just before I moved but she made no effort to go inside.

When W came she asked me "Where is the cat, I was hopping to see her" I told her that the cat wasn't here. Which she wasn't.

So now it seems she is missing the cat. This is a step in the right direction considering when she left, she wanted to give the cat away even though D6 totally loves the cat.

Knowing that she was coming today, I worked my butt off cleaning and tidying. It is my goal for her to want to come and live here at some point so I wanted the place to make a good first impression. Not that I'm a slob, Far from it actually, I just wanted that little extra so I made sure nothing was out of place and made sure the kitchen and bathrooms sparkled.

Anyway, I think I got the reaction I wanted. She came in and looked around and said "You have a really nice place here" in an unprovoked, honest kind of way. Also, while I was talking to her I noticed her intently surveying the place and she made comments about several of my pictures. She also made a comment about how quiet the building was. I'm pleased with the way it went.

[poet]

Wow, Imageer

Your post sounds really good. I have to say that my IC told me recently, that she wants me to see myself as a confident individual who, when intreacting with my husband, can say to myself when it is all over -- "Gee, I'm really please with myself and the way it went."

Seriously, she said those exact words.

Great job!
poet

[poet]

For example. "We are taking holidays this week", "we met the new neighbours last night" and so on. I don't say anything about it because I don't want her to feel that she can't talk to me but I don't like it.

I know what you mean about these sorts of comments, Imageer. It hurts like h*ll, doesn't it. I can remember my husband doing the same thing to me a week after he left and I caught him coming out of our Driveway with OW. That was the night he used his Bronco and pushed me out of the way -- assault with a deadly weapon. When I later followed them and she called the police on me, he said "We could have had you arrested." Imagine that!

poet

[Imageer]

Poet, You sound like you are not having a good time with your H. I haven't read your threads. I should check them out. I can't believe he pushed you with the car.

I am much stronger and more confident than I was when the bomb hit. I try not to let Ws craziness effect my mood much. But it does sometimes.

Thanks for your input.

[Imageer]

Well it was an interesting day today. I got a phone call from W today and she told me that she lost her job.

I've been speculating that this might happen based on her MLC but on some level didn't believe that it would. I must say that it is jolt of validation that she is not herself. She even commented to me that she has never lost her job before. And she hasn't. W has always been a top performer in every job she has ever had. I hope this is a shock to her system.

W's prospects don't look good at the moment. She got 8 weeks severance which will give her some time to find another job but the company she worked for paid well above average and she admits that no one is hiring in her indusry right now. So even if she finds another job, it is likely she will have to take a sizable pay cut.

I feel like a complete ass for feeling this way but I'm actually kind of excited that she lost the job. Don't get me wrong, I am concerned for her and I did tell her to let me know if she needs anything. However, this places her MLC life in jeopardy. He and OW just bought a house together. It is very possible W will no longer be able to afford it. She won't be able to afford her party life now and who knows how this will effect their R. I'm trying to have no expectations but I've been day dreaming a lot today.