My advice: Stop talking to her. it's pointless to "discuss" that issue. She will never say anything that admits she is doing something wrong. What she is doing, is the most important thing in the world to her. More important than her child, obviously.
Studies show, that when faced with a choice between, "change your actions, or change your morals", most people change their morals to condone their actions. Your "wife" is clearly in the majority group. So, dont bother trying to "convince" her that what she is doing is wrong. It's a waste of breath.
PS: stop trying to convince YOURSELF of things, too. You really 'wish that for her'? Then you are rather twisted and sick inside, and dodging your real feelings
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D. Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M. 3 wonderful sons caught in the middle
