I am so proud of each and every one of you in this thread. Good for you all for taking a stand for not being the back up plan. On the day that I now call the worst night of my life (May 19, 2008), when (X)H and OW came to my house and declared their love for each other. I told my XH that he needed to be sure about this choice because I refused to be his back up girl. If things didn't work out with OW, he wouldn't always have me to go back to. He is realizing this right now.

On thing I was always proud to say is that I held my head high. At least in public. In private I was a crying sobbing mess (still am at times), but I knew then and I know now that I never did anything wrong.

Oh...I live in Alton, IL (about 15 miles east of St. Louis)

Me-31 H-38
M: 5 yrs T: 7 yrs
No kids
Went to Prostitutes 10-1-06
Found out about OW 12-24-07
Bomb on EA/PA: 1-2-08
OW ended it with H "for good" 3-8-08
OW is back 4-19-08
H and OW tell me that they are in love 5-19-08
Filed for divorce 6-5-08
Divorced 7-2-08