What do I do now?

[christarn]

Lost~ I attempted to go back about 4 months after WA; it worked for a while...we went on some dates, talked a lot for about 8 months...there were always OW in the picture...now we are not talking, still not D'd...life in limbo land...it's not a fun place to be. I am still very hopeful. I feel as if he really wanted a D, he would go for it. We have talked a handful of times this year. Everything ceased about the middle of March...not sure what happend.

I am happy for you and your H...take it slow, if you haven't already, seek the help of a DB coach; mine has been a tremendous help! She really "gets" what needs to be done and is a great guide. Work through the 4 steps: decreasing hurt feelings and anger, friendship, courtship then restoring the R/M. trying to jump around through the steps, can be counter productive...which is what i did...and my coach thinks that could have been some of the problem.

My best advice, slow and steady wins the race....

Best Wishes
Christarn