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[Starshyne]

Donna, I too just read through your thread. My heart goes out to you. My XH was renting a house with his OW and her children. And guess what? He sent the loan application in both of their names to MY address! I got mail at my house addressed to my exhusband and his lover! I about threw up. Seriously! He also lives nearby. I am not sure at this point if the OW and her kids are with him or not. I try not to think about it.

I just know that it is hard. The best thing you can do (alright I got this from that book I have been reading called Fomerally a wife) is understand and accept that you have the feelings that you have. Tell yourself "I feel angry today because my XH and his girlfriend are buying a house together." And then move forward from that. The book says a lot about allowing yourself permission to have the feelings you have. To understand that it isn't wrong or bad to feel angry when you get a new blow like the one you did. The lady in the book tells about when she learned her XH was marrying his OW, how she felt betrayed all over again. At first she felt bad for having those feelings because she was divorced and shouldn't care about him re-marrying. But then she just decided to allow herself to feel bad about it and cry about it. It seems like good advice to me.

Eventually it will just be one more part of your story. Hang in there Donna. You are doing so well! Good for you that you didn't beg or plead. It is so tempting to do!