How to start from scratch in 12 Mos Separation ?

[SingleDad]

I know that is probably right... but I just feel helpless.


For the first 5 months during the divorce process- I begged and pleaded to save the marriage.

For the next 3 months during the separation - I stayed as friendly as possible to allow us to parent our daughter - having the belief that we each needed time to heal and possibly rebuild.

Now I learn that it was all a lie. W wanted to be friendly as it would just make it easier for her to have the affair guilt free.

It is still having an affair after a legal separation ? - I think it is as we are still legally married for at least the 365 days - but she considers us already divorced. (I cannot prove she had the BF before she fiuled for a divorce - though I believe it makes sense it started before - seeing as she tore up all of our wedding pictures and took off her ring soon after she filed)