Advice-Husband moved in with OW(I'm a Newby)

[hope3343]

Hi T2L,
My heart and prayers go out to you and your family, and as much as it kills me - my prayers go out to your H that he sees the light and the effects this has on the children. Your little guy has the weight of the world on his shoulders. This is too much for him to bear. Sounds like he is trying to be "man of the house". Good thing you are taking them to therapy. My H went to a Kids Divorce class on Saturday. He thinks he is an expert on the subject. Isn't it sad there is a class to break your child's heart. He told me I should go. We are the ones who protect the ones we shouldn't. This class is for them since they want out. Have you talked to your son's guidance counselor at school so they know what is going on. Also you were right to bring this up to H. Even though he responded negatively sometimes you plant that seed and he might check it out. I know when H told me he is looking at apts all over town, I asked him why didn't he look on the island to be close to his daughter. Didn't think he listened and now that is the only area he is looking. Will be tough having so close to house but I have to do what is right for D15.
Sometimes I think the MC is good but sometimes I don't think he is aggressive enough. I will let him lead, but not sure what I should say when it is my turn. I might use the alien replaced my H and I am not happy to use his words {{smile}}
I hear in the tone of your last post that you are getting angry and almost bitter. We are allowed. It is a lonely struggle for us. Last week I was ready to throw in the towel and just get an atty and serve him. But once I came back to the real world I need to at least try. Especially since I have made some good strides in GAL and DB techniques. I usually walk the beach every night and the funny part is I have been seeing some of the regulars there and one guy says he looks out for me and another turned around and walked with me one night. Good for the self esteem that is buried in the dirt - absolutely. Interested - NO NO NO, but I think God is showing me I am a good interesting person. We have to remember this.
Lets work on a 180. Think we both could use it~ any ideas or have you used all of yours up?