Advice-Husband moved in with OW(I'm a Newby)

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Hope3343,
Pat, Pat, Pat! Good for you!
Hmmm the marriage counselor thing? That's great that you've been going on your own. So it this Christian counselor solutions based like DB? I would see how the counselor leads the meeting. He will more than likely have a sensing or knowledge of whether or not you should talk about the future. I'm thinking the problems might need to be addressed first. I don't have much knowledge on that as my H left the home and I have no contact except for financial or kid issues.

Weekend kinda was hard, my son tried to have a sleepover on friday but was so worried that I was home alone he faked a stomache ache to come home. I picked him up and told him he didn't need to lie to just tell me he was having a hard time. On the way home he grabbed my hand(he's 9) and say mom I love you and starts to cry. I say whats wrong he says I feel like I need to protect you since dads gone. :-( I tell him that God watches over me and ask him if he can do a better job than God and he say no mom. So I say don't worry about me son I'll be fine I'm a big girl. He cried harder and says does dad know what he has done to me? I say dad told me not to tell him. He cries and says look at my fingernails mom i can't stop biting them and I'm nervous all the time. I feel bad for him I feel bad my self and I feel bad for my daughter. We have an appointment for therapy on the 18th. I am starting to wonder more and more why I am still waiting....He obviously could care less about me. I know he may somewhat care for the kids-but more about his self.

I tell H this morning about the whole thing with our son and tell him that i have been reading a lot of resources on the internet about kids suffering the effects of affairs so that I can help the kids more. I tell him that it's normal for the kids to not want to talk to them and say to google for information on effects of Affair, His response: No thanks. Ugggggg.