Thanks, JWS. H was so weird last night about it. He absolutely did NOT want me to send his dad anything in the hospital--based on reading in between the lines of what he said, I think combination of stress over his dad's health, guilt over me spending money, and guilt that I want to reach out to his family? Of course, he said hurtful, unreasonable things to try to dissuade me, but I was reasonable and validating, and by getting out of his way, he ended up realizing what a huge #%*^ he was being & apologizing later over text. My 'response' was giving in and just sending his dad an e-mail like H wanted and bcc'ing H. H contacted me again to thank me for that. So, it was all good, DB-wise.
H just reminds me of a wounded & disoriented animal, alternately baring his teeth and ???. Thinking of him that way helps me empathize. He's like a po'ed LOL cat:
