I so hope that Phil will indeed take time to read all that. I have said many times that my main concern was for your children. Over many years I have often had to deal with behavioural problems brought about by just such a home environment.
I also suspect Phil is a Catholic convert also that he has been involved with professionals at some point during his life probably mental health issues hence his balistic atitude to any suggestion he seeks help. I hope his wife seeks help too as she must be "damaged" by his bullying and she needs to be taught good parenting skills. I guess all we can do is pray for them all and hope that someone in real life picks up on how these children are living.
Please Phil seek help at least for your children. This is no way for them to live and learn at such a young and tender age. Children need and thrive on a regular routine. They should be in bed by 7-8pm each and every school night.They need to eat at a regular time then bath and bed with a story.No video,s or going out for ice cream etc. May God protect them.