I was unfaithful

[SirPrizeMe]

Maxy,
I know the feeling. The "I'm sick of this" feeling. "what are they thinking!!?!?!?!?" Oh yeah, I know that feeling!

How do I not get angry about that?

I don't know the answer to that, but I do know that not getting angry is absolutely essential. You've got to find a way. It's horrible, the way he is behaving. I know it must feel horrible to you. He's so distant and uncaring.

It is much easier if i dont ever see him.

Well now , that is a leap from "how do I not get angry?"
Your moods and reactions are yours to own. You don't have to like what he does. But you don't need to react. You can choose to react if you like. You own it.

As for deciding that you need him out of your life, I know that feeling. "it would be much easier if you never saw him." Ah, that sounds like Maxy running away. Excuse me if this isn't true, but it sounds like a "I can't take it!" "I can't control myself when he does this" kinda thing.

But you can. you can control yourself, your reactions. Even when he behaves badly.

I would encourage you to not throw down an ultimatim or push him away further. Ok, so, he didn't want to celebrate Father's day with you. Ok. His loss.

Why does he not see what he is loosing ? How hurt can he be about the A?

It's not the affair. I told you before. It's just a lot of stuff. He's not handling everything well.

Should I just give up ?

Only you know the answer to this. If it were me, I wouldn't.