One Year Yesterday

[*KS*Chick*]

.......do you call your ex on behaviors that make your child unhappy?

Peanut came home last night and was talking about her weekend, and how she was sad that her dad doesn't spend time with her. Sad that she plays alone over there.

What would you do?

[BethM]

Hey KS.....

So good to see you back here. I was just wondering about you. So sorry to hear about your Uncle!

It's sad to see our kids hurt but it's great that she knows she can come to you and talk about anything. Now this is just me but I would definitely say something to her Dad if you think that it would help. Actually if it were me, I would say wayyyyyyyyyyy more than just something. I would let him have it with both barrels. No child should have to feel sad or like they are an after thought. He owes her and he needs to know exactly how these kinds of visits make her feel. Obviously something stops her from telling her dad herself. I don't see what other choice you have but to speak up for her!

Love,
Bethie

[*KS*Chick*]

yeah that's what I'm thinking too. UGH.

I flew out Aug 25, and my uncle passed that day - so I cut my work trip short but it was ok.

He's in a better place. Thanks for the kind thoughts <3

[fig]

Hey chickeroni

i would tell him for sure

and

i probably wouldn't say it nicely

(I'm not suggesting that...just being honest here)

[*KS*Chick*]

I know - I struggled all night.

I finally sent a text today that peanut said she wishes he'd spend more alone time with her


I didn't add the expletives!

[fig]

you are good

i would have added the explatives and then questioned why he even tried being a father and some other choice things

[*KS*Chick*]

Yeah I was thinking - for ONLY four days a month, ummmmmmmm

Then I remember the source......

[fig]

i know

i am all for reeming them

but then again

i am fortunate (?) LSS has no contact and the hardys dad skipped out when they were babies

so i don't have to coparent with anyone

however...when Baboo's ex was 2 hours late to pick up and half an hour late to drop off and hadn't fed BB or even put her in clean clothes fromt he day before and the poor thing smelled like an ashtray, i bit my tongue
almost off i might add
and
did laundry in a different room while my brain bled from the effort of keeping quiet

[*KS*Chick*]

crap! The board is freaking out!

yeah I remember part of it - let's see - about being amazed that he's this way -

and then I remembered I was always the bad guy

and then I read some of the stuff I posted to Phil

and then I realized I won't ever let my daughter live in that kind of house again.

Oy vey!

[*KS*Chick*]

again!

so the computer ate my post x3.

So I was saying I was surprised he ended up being the way he is.

Then I realized I was in denial.

And he always made ME the bad guy.

And I read the stuff I posted to Phil.

And i realized I won't let my Peanut grow up in a house like that.

Please post now....