My marriage is here: "Others are having affairs, admit it (or were caught at it), and express no desire to end it and work on their marriages."
I have a thread under infidelity/extramarital affairs/ jealousy the post is called: Advice-Husband moved in with OW(I'm a Newby)
I have just joined the DB forum about a week ago-best thing I've done since this all started. Also joined the Marriage Builders forum. If you have time maybe you could read my story. My husband has been out of the home since 05/08/08 and moved in with OW on August 1st. I thought maybe it would be a good thing ya know a taste of reality. He's pretty angry at me most of the time although he did all this. He lashes out a lot blames me for everything says I told kids not to talk to him, blames me for financial stuff-he got demoted through all this and pay is less.
I basically have basically cut almost all contact with him for last 3 months unless its financial or kids. Its mostly been financial as the kids have been so mad they have not wanted to see him which of course he blames me for. Do you think I should put some kind of pressure on him to choose or do you think by him moving in with OW that is a choice? I have basically just dropped off the radar unless there is a reason to contact which by the way is only through email as he doesn't' talk via phone, its like dealing with a child.
Through this, about 4 months since discovery he has not said he wants the marriage. Should I just continue or at some point does he need to be asked to make a decision? I have basically said hey I can't make you love me and I couldn't have made you marry me and stay the last 18 years and i cant make you do anything. Do I need to press him to make a decision or let him just continue to live with her or is living with her a decision itself.
Me-38 H-38 Married 18years Daughter-17 & Son-9 Discovery of EA/PA 4/23/08 Left home 5/08/08 Moved in with OW 08/01/08
The only rock I know that stays steady, the only institution I know that works is the family. -- Lee Iacocca
