Husband's Missed Oppotunity #2

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Well, have to admit. It's not ALL that I said. I lost my cool - I admit it. I told him that I hated him for making me do this and that K is not HER daughter. We got in an argument. He was pissed off. Then I tried to backtrack and undo it. I apologized for flying off the handle. I just told him that it was really hard for me and just try and understand that. He lightened up a bit, but only a slight bit. Then he was off.

Last night I met him at the place his parents are staying at. He was CRANKY to say the least. He barely said two words to me. I just acted as if nothing had happened earlier. I asked how K was during the day. He didn't stay very long, but the whole time he was there he was texting - blah, blah, blah - their usual.

My BIL told me that H bought a set of golf clubs while OW was out of town - used her credit card. The clubs showed up UPS when she was home and she didn't know that he had bought them and they got in a huge argument. Well, DUH. This is what H does. He spends money - anyones money. I guess H also stood up his brother last week. They had a tee time to play golf and at the last minute, H cancelled so he could go play golf with OW's Dad. BIL was hurt. My SIL said to him, "don't let it bring you down. Your brother isn't loyal to anyone. He isn't even loyal to his own Wife and Child".

H had to go out of town for work today. He was NOT happy about it. I actually felt really bad about the things I said to H yesterday. They weren't horrible. I just think I was more upset with myself than anything.

So, this morning, I texted H to call me when he got a chance because I needed to talk to him about K's baptism. He called right away. We talked for about 20minutes about that and work. He said "let me call you right back" and hung up. I texted him and said "you don't need to call me back. I know you're busy. Have a good day at work. Your daughter will miss you this week." It was kind of my way of ending the conversation and taking back some of the control.

I feel better now that I feel that I took back the control. Sad, isn't it? I DO have control issues. I really need to work on those.

So, I doubt I will hear frm H this week. His Mother asked him how often he sees K and he told her about once a week. She asked him why he would ask for more custody if he can't even manage to see his daughter more than once a week? Ummm maybe because he doesn't want to pay CS?