Sunshine- I get your message and thank you for understanding. Life is short indeed, and I am certainly not anything but human (aubergine, peach, spider, broom?!). I'm slowly but surely progressing towards a decision. The clock is ticking in more ways than one, for me, for H.
Mishka- Thank you for the compliments. I don't know what to say but thank you, and that I could say the same about you. I should post a picture on FB really, but H has all our electronic photos and I have very few. I'll look into it.
I was a bit worried about what got you laughing in my story so I went back and re-read my initial CEO post. Anyway, just to clarify (in case this was the amusing thing), CEO did not guide me on to the tube by putting his NAD in my back (not sure about abroad but in the UK 'nads' refer to men's meat and two veg). He used his HAND. Let this be a lesson to me in reading my posts before submitting them!
I'll see CEO tomorrow and no doubt things will be totally back to normal (or as normal as our office gets). This weekend will seem like a somewhat confused (and tense) blip by lunchtime. I'll probably see H on Wednesday evening at a work-related function. One of the things I'm supposed to do is see H in a group situation where meeting is an aside (somewhat difficult to orchestrate), so maybe it'll shake things up a bit on some level.
That is so funny about the NADS! I did read that and thought 'what - a nad in the small of your back and your not sure if he's flirting or not'?!? And then you said something about him feeling relaxed, and I wasnt sure if that was in relation to the nads or not!! Ha ha ha ha! Was that a freudian slip? The umbrella under your bum sounded a bit wild too! Thanks for the laugh!
Yeah, the NAD comment had me laughing. I knew you meant HAND but it was certainly a good chuckle. It was more the umrella under the bum that got me. That seems like flirting without actually stepping over a line where he would have connected a body part with your bum. Instead he uses an extension of a body part. Just seemed funny to me, but I have a really sick sense of humor.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
Things seem fine- no flirting, although CEO has only been here for about half an hour today. I was feeling a bit tense though- he sent me a couple of flirtatious messages this morning. That guy is a total enigma.
I told Austin about it all this morning and she had a good laugh about it (she was only holiday last week). She thinks we should go out for a meal next week (CEO wanted to come out to a meal she and I have planned) and she'll observe his behaviour and see if he's flirting with intention or for fun. She does know him a bit and thinks he's flirting with intention but she also thinks he's a bit of a player. No clarification at all, although she found the NADS vs HANDS thing hilarious.
No contact from H today. Typical- just on a day when he SHOULD contact me, he doesn't! I'm not that bothered, I suppose. I guess that my cool e-mail on Friday either sent him into his cave, or he's not been in work or has been busy. Meanwhile my mind is dangerously occuppied elsewhere. This is HORRIBLE!
Hey you... Why dont you go for that meal, and get Austin to leave early... then if the two of you are left behind and have had a few drinks, you will probably get your answer. In vino veritas! (found it !)
Also, this business about him being this, or that, I wouldnt prejudge.. my exBIL was like that and then he met the right woman and is now M (he got M this year, but is 37), so you never know? Whats horrible about it? That you feel disloyal, or you are worried CEO is toying with you?
I'm sorry your H didnt email you, my ex didnt either. I dont suppose it was becuase of what you said in your email on Friday, it might just be that theres only so far he can go with the emailing/contact without making a more definitive leap. So far, he is choosing to stay put I guess.
You are starting to sound like your patience/love is wearing thin. Sad isnt it? I feel that, these guys are so determined to tear down the love we had for them, instead of turning to face whatever the problem was (and ok, maybe its still not fixable, but at least they'd know they had tried and so would we). I cant comprehend leaving someone on a sixpence after years and years with no real good reason, or effort.
Sorry, moan over ! Do you think you will ask him for the meal then?!
Al x
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
Big chinned CEO is not an enigma! He is just looking for an opening, but he isn't going to put himself in a spot where he actually gets rejected!
Originally Posted By: AliSuddenly
Why dont you go for that meal, and get Austin to leave early... then if the two of you are left behind and have had a few drinks, you will probably get your answer. In vino veritas! (found it !)
I really don't like this plan, but it's a personal problem! I am having a hate affair with an ocean......
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