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Disappoint? Never. Thought something happened to you.


Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*

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Okay so the party was fantastic! D12 and I had a lot of fun tearing up the dance floor, doing the cha cha...

H did not manage to show up, but I did get a text from him Friday. It surprised me a bit, he said they might be closing his unit at work. I called him, and proceeded to chat about it, seems that EP has more offices open than open CPS cases, so they are thinking this could potentially mean lay offs, and reorganization. I asked him if that meant he could end up somewhere else in Texas, and he said he did not know, but was worried about how he would manage to rent the house and pay for an apartment if he needed to. I told him if he got relocated, I would move back into the house. He said that was fine, but he still was not going to be able to pay for two households, and I said well I would pay for the house if I was living there! I also said if he gets laid off, by that time I should know something about going permanent at this job and would cover him under health insurance. He said that would be fine, between that and the unemployment it would be tight but we would cross that bridge when we came to it.

Did not hear from him for the rest of the weekend, but the fact that he chose to tell me about that I think was a big step, although I am not sure why he would think I would not pay for the house if I was living there.

On the flipside, D21 (for those of you who don't know my sitch, she was a major problem w/ the M) was in a car accident. She is okay, bumped and bruised but otherwise fine. I am having a very hard time mustering much sympathy for her though. Thank God baby Boo Boo (she is 4 mos.) was not in the car w/ her. So D21 calls me so she can get Grandpa's (my F) phone number so she can ask for money. I called my F, and told him not to give her any, because to be honest, this kid takes and takes and takes. She has money in savings and told D23 that the only reason she was calling G'pa was because she knew he had money. That ticked me off. I did not give her the number, and if she calls to ask for it again, I have decided that I am going to tell her that I already talked to him, and recommended he not give her anything. It is frustrating b/c I love her, but somewhere along the line she needs to grow up. She thinks life is a handout, and I know she and her H can afford the deductible and rental car, so I don't know why she wants to get money rather than take the savings and take care of it with that.

As for the rest of the weekend, it was actually really peaceful. I was missing H quite a bit last night and shed a few tears, but did not call. I want him to miss me a little too...


Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..

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Originally Posted By: JenInVen
Disappoint? Never. Thought something happened to you.


No unfortunately EP does not have much of a drainage system, and when we get rain, it tends to knock everything out. They are supposed to fix it sometime this week, but it is out everywhere on the side of town I live on. It is a pain in the butt...


Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..

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All in all it sounds like a good weekend (sans internet).

Your H was open and honest with you regarding his job situation.

You and your D12 had a blast!

D21 was not injured in the wreck and your grandchild wasn't with her.

Yup, sounds like all positives. That's awesome.

Tears are allowed and encouraged. They get the emotion out of your system.

Mimosa?


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PA5/07
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Back together with no defined R 05/2010
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MMMM Mimosa sounds like just the ticket to get me started this Monday ;\)


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(((((Lola)))))
I was getting a bit worried, too! It sounds like it turned into a pretty good weekend!

The thought of you and D12 tearing up the dance floor is pretty cool!

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So I sent H a text this morning asking him to look out for D12's report card since she was out of school all last week. Asked him if he got any rest over the weekend.

Noon: instead of texting back, H called me \:\) Said he did manage to get some rest this weekend and was working at home this morning doing his narratives. Confirmed tomorrow, said he only had one appointment at 2:30 so it looked like a go.

Then I got a little sneaky. Told him I took some chicken out over the weekend and needede to cook it, and would he like to stay and have a quick bite? Said he did not want to say yes or no because he did not know what his schedule was going to be. Sooo I said I will do this: cook dinner and if he can stay cool, and if not I would eat it the next day too! Said okay \:\) at least he didn't say no. But of course, I sounded like a fuc$!ing teenager trying to stumble the invite out without making him feel obligated, so because of that he may perceive I was nervous and reading more into it (no...just dinner).

Whew


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(((Lola)))

Sounds like you had a good weekend! That party sounded like a blast lol.


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It was hysterical, D12 heard the cha cha and dragged me out there, and then we got "we are glad someone got up to dance!!!"

We are definitely trend setters!!! It was so much fun!!!


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Yeay Lola!!! We missed you over the weekend!! Glad everything is okay and H is opening up more & more to you!!! \:\)


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