Hi everyone! Thank you for your post to me!! Wow!!! I am so amazed at how many H's go for OW that they normally would stay away from. I do believe between MLC & these OW knew how to manipulate & brainwash them. The woman my H is with is 1 1/2 years older than him! My H is 6 months older than me but he has gray hair & I do look younger than he does, she doesn't. I've seen a picture of her.
I agree, I doubt it will last long but who knows! He is in a mess right now I believe. She thought he had money & according to my SIL she still doesn't know he doesn't have any money. I don't know about that but I have a feeling it will come out very soon. His plan was to get money off the sale of this house, didn't happen! Plus he didn't expect the lawyers fees to be over 15,000. And, he paid all of it except 3000.00 that came out of our savings, well 6,000.00 came out of savings so I look at that like I paid 3,000.00, but he paid the rest.
Poet, I'm not on FB & don't really know what that is. If you can tell me what I need to do to sign up for that I will be happy to & talk to you privately. Believe me, I do know what you are going thru!!! At first I was like you & didn't want to go after my H b/c I wanted us to stay friends. I talked to several lawyers & the one I picked just sounded like he was mean & would go after him. Not mean to me but upset b/c he said your H sounds like he has OW, I didn't know at that time. I wasn't going to use him at first b/c retainer was 3500.00 & I told my Dad I didn't want to be mean. My Dad called me the next day & said hire that lawyer, you need a good one & I'm so glad I did. I wouldn't have gotten anything if I had not. Let me know how to get on FB & I'll be glad to talk with you!!!!
((((HUGS)))) to all, I so much appreciate you all being here for me!!!!!!
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I'm back home, adjusting to solitude, unpacking, fighting off depression and missing the board. Don't have much time to post, as usual. Will try to catch up with everybody' sitch ASAP.
(((hugs)))
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I ask not for a lighter burden, but for broader shoulders ____________________________________________________ M 46 H 45 D 17 M/T 23 Bomb #1 (ILYBNILWY) 12.06 Bomb #2 (OW) 12.07 Bomb #3 (chose OW over M) 9.08
I'm doing ok, this past weekend was rough it being a year since he told me but I'm keeping busy this week. So far I've been finishing up some projects that he didn't finish, painting mostly & it's all in my hair! Oh well, I get it everywhere!
I'm still pretty sad & think about the events of this past year & it is very hard, I'm trying not to think too much but woke up in the middle of the night & it was on my mind & I couldn't go back to sleep. You know it was only 10 months from the time he told me he wanted a D to the time he married again! That is crazy!!!!! Like the newsletter from Charlyne Cares last Friday, she really has brainwashed him!!!
Hi nlt, Thanks for posting on my thread. I am doing better now.
I am glad that you are keeping busy. I also did some painting last year but I hated it. Like you I got the paint all over the place.
I know how difficult it is to fall asleep or waking up and thinking of all kinds of things. I tried Yoga for a while, and it helped me to fall asleep. But now I find it very difficult to concentrate on it and then it is not so effective.
I hope that you will also feel better soon. Take care. (((HUGS)))
Well, I'm having a very depressing day!!! I found out that I didn't get that job! I'm so very upset about it. I found out that the corp. office denied this office anymore more money for salary, he tried to get them up to industry standards but they wouldn't budge so he said he had to go to plan B & offer it to someone who was less qualified. I wish he would have offered it to me, I would probably have taken it even at the lower salary. Oh well, I guess it wasn't meant to be.
It really has upset me, my Dad even mentioned the other day that I was going to have to sell this place & move back home if I don't get a job. I can't see me doing that & I really don't want to but he is getting worried. I've got several people looking for me & I guess I can always take something that is not in my field until something else comes along. Music industry jobs are hard to come by.
Then I had someone call me that I used to work for that had heard about my D & that upset me, not that he called but I don't know it just upset me. He was very sorry to hear about it & was very sweet but it was sad. He knows what I'm going thru, his 1st wife had an affair with a deacon at their church. But still it's just been a down day. I'm still painting & I think I've about got it done, thank goodness. My hands are white & everything else! Now to go clean the brushes, YUK!
((((HUGS)))
oh, by the way I'm on facebook & was invited but don't know where to go from here.
