Each and every day she shows you the woman she REALLY is.
Is that what you want? She is actually doing you a favor showing you her true self. Too bad she is the mother of your kids.
This is all part of the trial we are in. Why we are here, we cannot say right now.
But I do know there is something better ahead for us.
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I just don't know how she manages to stay locked in this stage for so long...
She's either very, very naive or very, very scared.
I disagree that she is naive or scared. This is her defensive posture: denial and anger. Anything to deflect responsiblity. I got the same thing: it was all my fault. All of it.
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Her sense of entitlement is also bewildering.
Why do you say this Amy? Her sense of entitlement is a given. I hate to say it but FIB enabled that. He treated her like a queen. He was the one at the operating room working overtime while she was spending money on $200 jeans. He took care of the money, the kids, the house. Everything.
Why should she feel anything but entitled now? Entitled is her middle name and it defines her life.
And her father enabled her the most.
What I say is not a put down of FIB. Just the opposite - he did everything for her but she took it for granted rather than realizing that marriage is a partnership and partners help each other.
But I really cannot trash her either. She lived entitled for over 40 years. She does not know any better.
I was in the same situation. All I find bewildering is why I married my Ex in the first place and why FIB married his.
She is a brat. She can help that, but she has to see it first. And she does not.
FIB and I will know better next time not to play father to a spoiled brat.
In the mean time, hang in Frank. It will get better but we need to hit bottom first - and bounce at the bottom a few times at that.
