I hope the trip goes well. One thing I notice when I read your thread is that you'd lik this to b a smooth upward journey of increasing baby steps until you reach the ultimate goal. Dbing doesn't usually work that way- there has to be a period of stage 1 before you can get to stage 2, and although you may feel like you're ready to move forward your H may not be. For teh depressed/WA spouse things move in a rollercoaster- up and down. Your H is currently on a down, but it doesn't mean he's gone for good. It means he's in his cave working on him.
Detach and don't think too much about contact frequency and content. H'll be back in touch when he's ready- trust in the strength of your R (pre-S) and that you are supporting him by giving him this time.
