I just have to chime in in response to Mandy's post--my H's OW is huge too! He described her to me by comparing her size to someone we both know, and then said, "Even if she lost a LOT of weight, she'd still be a big girl." And before he got involved with her, he never expressed any particular interest in any woman who wasn't petite (like me)! Of course, H and OW met through an internet game (Second Life), so he claims that until the day he met her in person, with the plan to spend the next four days alone with her in the hotel room he had booked for them (which he did), he had no clue what she looked like! And he hasn't said this to me, but it's my guess that they tell each other that they "fell in love with each other's personalities" so what they look like didn't matter. Although I'm sure they tell each other "You're gorgeous." My H is pretty attractive, I think, but I definitely wouldn't have been interested in a 40-something man when *I* was in my early 20s!! Especially if he was MARRIED! Ewwww!
To my knowledge, my H's OW has never been married--she is 23 and still in college! But *supposedly* she was a virgin when they met. Even if that was true, it isn't any more, though.
Okay, this whole line of discussion is making me nauseated.
NLT, I hope you are doing better. I feel for you, hon; this has gone so fast for you that I'm sure your head is spinning! Be good to yourself and find something you can do TODAY that you will enjoy.
Blessings and peace, Dawn
Me 45/H 47, no kids Together since 1985; M/1992 Bomb1 (EA-OW1, age 22) 2001 Bomb2 (EA/PA-OW2, age 22) 10/2007, A continues H left 11/24/08 minimal contact, no legal action http://tinyurl.com/DawnHope1
Although I'm sure they tell each other "You're gorgeous." My H is pretty attractive, I think, but I definitely wouldn't have been interested in a 40-something man when *I* was in my early 20s!! Especially if he was MARRIED! Ewwww!
