There is a really good boy in my son's cub scout den who is always accompanied by his grandfather and/or grandmother. I asked the grandfather where his parents are. He said that when they got divorced, the custody issue went before the judge and the judge said that neither parent was qualified to raise the boy and asked if anyone was present that could - Grandpa raised his hand and was awarded full custody.
I hope you realize that all the venom you have written on here could be discovered by your W and used in court against you.