We're never getting back together-How do you cope?

[onedge]

You know NCN, the more i hear about your W, the more I can identify with how you feel, and how she acts.

"She takes longer than most people I know to work things out, is more sensitive (which can be a great quality when it is focused on being empathetic), and is apparantly as stubborn as any person I've ever known once she makes a decision."

I would swear we are married to the same person I think that when there is a point when my W would consider trying again, her stubborn-ness would stop her from telling me, also, it would probably (but hopefully not) stop her from considering if I do.

One step forward and 2 steps back, that seems to be the way it works. Remember what you want and why you want it. Remember that the aliens aren't used to the way you are acting, you don't want to scare them away, no matter how comfy it gets.

"I had to talk for a while to my D'd buddy just to get over my anger. We hung out at local bookstore. After we mulled it over, I went to relationship section and found a book that looks promising: 'I love you, but i'm not IN LOVE with you: 7 steps to Saving your Relationship' by Andrew G. Marshall. This is one of the annoying things she actually said to me some time ago."

Those words seem to just burn inside, i know how you feel. Even if it is true that, and that is exactly how she feels with no confusion, she fell in love with you once, she can do it again, but it will have to be natural for her, not forced and not rushed. Did you rush when you started out? probably not i'm guessing.

I think that for all of us it is a matter of our other halfs having to learn to love us again.

Don't quit now, you seem to be doing really well to get a date even, I'd kill for a date with my W at the moment, i'd even settle for a nice talk with joking and stuff, or even for her to vent to me about how upset, or angry she is for whatever reason.

Let me know how the book is. I'm going to peruse the local bookshop tomorrow morning before work to see if there is anything I can find for depression with relationships and relationships in general. That is something that I should probably do.