Thanks so much for clarifying a little bit what you meant by making a bold move. I thought you guys were encouraging me to more or less pull a kamikaze move, self immolate and throw in the towel if i didn't get a yes. Inside I was like, Isn't that against every single DB guideline, and has that actually worked for anyone?
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do you think he knows it's not over for you?
I seriously have NO idea... to me it is so obvious, I feel like he must be able to smell it even though I'm trying to play it cool. (my friend who came with me to his bluegrass gig told me I was amazingly calm, so at least in that instance it really worked). but honestly I've given him no explicit indication.
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Whatever his immediate response would be, anyway, I wouldn't see it as the end if he said no; I'd see the point as getting him to think of you in an R way subconsciously, which would make it easier if he did say no.
This is very interesting.... I didn't think of it that way.
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And if he reacs angrily, all the better- then you know you're REALLY affecting him and have a good chance. I wish my H would get angry with me sometimes! ;\)
that's kind of how I felt when he got all weird at our last lunch... if he needed to distance at least he cared (or something).
I am intrigued by the possibility of a grand gesture, but I still want to feel "safe". At this time I do not want to volunteer myself for any more drama... I really want to graduate and do a good job on my recital in Nov...
can we come up with some brainstorming options, something in between a bold move and a slow burn?
thank you always OD... it blows my mind that you remember so many details of my situation, I feel so cared for.
