I'm glad that he's leaning in your direction. He will need help in order to do this, as he's shown previously that he's weak and won't be able to pull it off his way.
Are you familiar with "no-contact" letters, and "transparency" plans? You will need to do both in order for this to have a chance to succeed.
I'm concerned about him not living at home with you while he tries to end his contact with OW, and go thru what will be -- if he truly leaves her -- a pretty strong withdrawal period. I've never heard of a transparency plan done from any place OTHER than the two spouses living in the same home, and without a transparency plan, I'm afraid that he's just going to slip back into contact with her.
I want to stress something to both of you: ANY contact, at any point -- even NEGATIVE contact -- resets his withdrawal "clock" back to 0:00:00. Meaning, any gains that have been made in him moving emotionally back to you and your marriage will have been undone, and the process will have to start all over again. This is a chemical and physiological fact.
