Demonic possession, MLC, Affair OR shady character?
Well...I think the "MLC/Affair-fog/They'll come to their senses" explanation is a very necessary coping mechanism in the early stages of the crisis. There is much truth to it. In many cases patience and "getting a life" tied to the hope they will snap out of it is effective. It kept me going for about 15 months. Then I started getting really pissed off and began to realize, perhaps, that my wife was never going to snap out of it. Her MLC was, possibly, a permanent transformation. Then I started getting bitter, spending time cursing her under my breath, thinking, perhaps, that this was who my wife REALLY was, and that given the right circumstances, her real charater has shown itself. The alien was not the person in front of me...no, in fact, that was the REAL person under the mark. The nice person I was married to for all these years was, perhaps, a "persona" contructed to cope with a strict religious upbringing she was raised with. When the situation got tough, the illusion unravelled and the TRUE person came out.
She hasn't veered away from her new-age, self-actualizing, "centered", "clear", "I do whatever makes me feel good" phase. It's like a MLC that deepens and remains permanent.
She keeps telling me "this is who I really am, this is the real me." I'm beginning to believe her.
So...where does that leave me? I don't think I can be married to someone who doesn't actually believe in marriage and whose ethics, particularly regarding fidelity, are subject to the whims of her latest meditation session. This is not a covenant.
