Oh yeah...JWS...I posted on your thread...had some questions for you when you get a moment post the answers on your thread.
The deal with my double life and realizing I didn't want it anymore is that I always knew I didn't want it forever...my self esteem was so poor having men I had no interest in pay attention to me filled a big void. I also reasoned to myself that it was "safe" because I knew I would always really only love my H and because these men held no interest for me long term I didn't think about how my actions hurt my H. Sooo..what got me to do an about face and completely leave me double life behind was H finding out about everything and deciding that he was going to move on without me....that put me in line big time. You asked about he handled the situation when we were separated and I would say he was very patient....to be honest, however, I don't think he would have been that patient if he hadn't felt so much guilt over his own EA.
