You know Snodderly...My H actually said the same thing a few weeks back....that its the "thrill of the chase".
I agree that she wants him to move in with her so she can keep a closer eye on him, making it even MORE challenging to him. Him on the streets may be just what it takes.
And I am focusing on me and the kids. I love them very much. I have to say that this morning when I picked up the kids, they told me of their dad moving in with the OW. I just listened and said ok, I asked if they knew where and when and if they would have their own room....my son said to me "mom, how come you are NOT getting mad about it"....made me realize that I have growed some and I now realize I have no control of things. Made me feel good that My children didnt see me getting mad any more over what their dad is doing.
Last edited by kissak; 09/07/0806:44 PM.
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
I see it is still the same ole thing with your H...really sweetie I think you are WAYYYYYYYYY better off without him in your life...could you really in your heart trust him again? Only you can answer that one.
As for the whole texting thing...I think I would turn off my text messaging. Then I would email him and tell him that I would not longer, under any circumstances text him again, that I only would use email to communicate the needs of the children and his financial responsibility to me and them...I would declare that I am not his friend but that I will continue to give him the respect he deserves as the father of the kids...that I expect the same respect from him (no more flirting with me) that I wish for him to leave me alone...he has made his bed and he can sleep in it with her for all I care...(I think I would be done by now if I were you)
I would tell him that the only phone calls he would get from me would be emergency calls regarding the children...anything else can wait for email...
I would also tell him that when he calls to talk to the kids...that is fine...but don't ask to speak to me unless it is about them...don't ask how I am doing because if you cared you wouldn't be doing this and if you don't know by now how I am doing then you are just plain stupid and I don't have room for stupid in my life!...don't call to check on me...don't come by to visit me...LEAVE ME ALONE...you have OW to talk to...to care about...to text...to go home to...to ask about her day...again, LEAVE ME ALONE...
I would push this SOB so far away he might fear dropping off the edge of the earth...and I wouldn't be doing it to create a change in him...I would be doing it because I respect myself and no longer need a dog like this to hump my leg!
Sorry this sounds harsh, but sweetie you continue to let him put you through the ringer...there comes a time when you need to say enough and not fear what happens after that...and from what I see the sooner the better for you and those darling children of yours...
Thank you lin...I have been waiting to hear from you because you always seem to put things in perspective to me. I actually am getting to that point that I am done. I do have some fall backs occasionally though.
I just have to get up the nerve to say all that to him, and really mean it!
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
Think about all he has done...allow yourself to feel the pain...and then get done...you will find the strength in your own pain...I think you keep pushing those feelings aside...you need to demand your respect back!
Lin...I have been feeling the pain...but im trying to come to terms with it. Its hard. But of course you know that.
I need to demand my respect back for sure!
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
Hey FriendlyGal....thank you, I am doing well today. Feeling a little detached from things and it feels good today.
H hasnt bothered me much today...he called this morning to talk to the kids, after they left....he knew they werent there...but i was short and to the point with him.
Later he texted me to ask me something and now i dont remember what it was about but it had to do with the kids. He texted a few times after lunch and I didnt answer because my phone was on vibrate and I didnt hear it, so then he called me on my business phone and I answered. It was just to say hey and that he hadnt heard much from me today....really I havent said anything except responding to his texts. Guess he can tell Im not that interested anymore.
oh well...who cares really. He has the OW and she LOVES to text, let him text her. It will all end for him one day and I will be sitting back saying "i told u so".
Just enjoying my day!
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
I did reply this time because I didnt feel like getting another phone call.
This is funny how much he has texted me today when I have just left him alone.
I wish I could tell him that Im sorry, but the train is leaving the station!
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
