Advice-Husband moved in with OW(I'm a Newby)

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Hi T2L, JGrind and Marisol, I feel very comfortable in this thread with others like myself! It is really shocking when we realize how disruptive this is to our very being.
T2L, as promised I GAL all day. You would have been proud. H came home at 1:00 am very quietly but I could smell the alcohol on him. When he came into bed I wanted to rip him but didn't I just said Good night and went back to sleep. In the morning he asked me to go for coffee and at your suggestion again I said "no" I am going to make some coffee here because D15 asked to go to church today. He then asked what time Mass was and he said he would go with us????? He came to mass and the sermon was about Loving our selves first and then the priest went on about commiting adultery to try and value ourselves and then went on to talk about abusing our bodies with alcohol and drugs. Then he said that all these things put you against God's plan. I look over at H and he looked like he was going to cry. My D after Mass said Mom what a coincidence that the priest was talking about drinking just like Dad. I said it was no coincidence but maybe God's plan. He then asked us out to lunch which I did go because D15 went with us. Then I went home and had made plans with a new friend and left at 2:00 and did not return to 7:30. After I left my new friend for coffee I went to the store then a walk on the beach. Never called H but called D15. I came in a really good mood and he kept looking at me but did not ask too much about my day even though I could tell it was bothering him. And the best part was he actually stayed home and trimmed our palm trees (first work he has done in the house for months) I was shocked. I just said what a great job he did. He is now in the bedroom watching TV. This is the first day he did not talk about leaving/finances/I am not happy. This was a DB day. Tomorrow? who knows but for today I made my mark. I actually felt calm first time in a month.
This is why this message board is sooooo important for us. When things go really bad the support is there, when we have even a small success we can share and encourage each other.
Another thing I want to mention, my new friend who has been divorced for about 3 years told he she heard her ex is having big regrets because of the divorce. How sad, could their marriage have been saved through DB? my friend told me her therapist thought that divorce should be the way to go. She now wonders. what a shame when i hear that kind of story. Lets do a big group hug {{{{{{{hugs to all}}}}}}}}}}}}