I had the same question about three weeks ago. My WAW didn't want me to send her any cards or flowers, because she said that when I sent them in the past I was just making up for something I had done wrong. I did think that at the because I was wrong too many times, but it is not what I think. It is what she thinks! I have always sent her flowers on her Brithday. Not just when I did screw-up.
I am doing the LRT and it says to not to apply any presser or pursue. I thought if I got her a gift for her birthday it would look like I was pursuing her. A couple of nice people here said her birthday is a special day and if you didn’t recognize this special day it my hurt more than help.
We had not seen each other in about 3 months. We talk once a week on the phone and emailed back and forth a couple a times a week. Nothing but business and friendly conversations. I debated for a month with myself about this same question…Do I or Don’t I? I went from do nothing to what I finally did.
I went with my gut and I gave her a Friendship Birthday card and a gift card to her favorite dress shop. You should know also that I asked her she would like to go to lunch with me to celebrate her Birthday (I thought lunch would be less threatening to her and some what less romantic). I let her pick the place and time where she wanted to eat. She agreed.
I am glade I did!!!! She looked great and I told her so. I keep a smile on my face and told her a couple of funny stories that would show I had made some 180s without coming right out and telling her point blank that I making changes. I let her talk and I listen very intently to everything she said and validated and made positive remarks on what she was talking about. She has a very busy workday especially on Mondays, which this was. We talked for 1 hour and 45 minutes. She looked at her watch a couple of times and said she could stay a little longer. Then at the appropriate break in our conversation I tolded her that I had to go back to work. She knew this was one of my busies days of the year. She committed on that and I said, “ That’s OK it was worth it I enjoyed it very much.” As we got our cars she turned and gave a kiss on the lips and a good tight 30-second hug. We parted ways. Neither of us said ILY.
I found out later that week from my S33 and D30 that she had told them that she really enjoyed our lunch. So you can see that I am glade I did something for her Birthday. This week she has agreed to be my date to a social function that I have to go to for my job.
I know this is a long way around to your answer, but In My Opinion, Go with your gut. You know her better than anyone her dose. This may start to put some point in the love bank for you. If you are anything like me, you need too! At least in her mind.
Not matter what response you get here you are the one that going to have to make the decision. Good Luke! Let us know what happens.
