Hi Karen, I know what you mean about the whole virtue and morals (if I can add that) thing, my H is constantly slamming current sitches (ie: John Edwards) for cheating on their families but he has done the same thing! I worry that my kid's are going to have completely warped morals. . . He also wants me to move out and he get sole custody of the kids * > * ? ! WTF . . He travels all the time . . . Anyway, I know the feeling, bad news for me he won't move out.
I don't think anyone thinks of themselves as immoral obviously even if they are. They justify their behavior with an excuse or 2. I do worry about the kids, but I'm hoping they'll look at us both in the long run and not go to the dark side!
My H is the same way--he asked for primary custody even though he has typically spent about 5 or less hours a week with the kids, travels, heavily obsessed with OW--oh, yeah, that's a good idea!!! If I didn't love the kids so much, I have had the evil thought of letting him have what he wants as I think he would be miserable, but so would the kids, so won't do that!!! But if the worst thing happened, and H did get custody, I think he would give up on that really quick!!! I think they are somewhat delusional or crazy or something when it comes to decision-making! Karen
