my crazy mess part 5 the saga continues!

[christarn]

ITH~ The last two phone calls: he calls or I have called him, he wants/needs something that takes me TOTALLY TOTALLY off guard... most recent example...POOLGATE...yes how can any of us forget POOLGATE!!! (sandi, I know your laughing!!) The second being over some stupid credit card....yes sandi, you've been following me long enough, i'm sure you read about credit-card gate as well....they start out nice, cordial, easy-going, then he throws something at me off the wall....like by the way the pool is full of mold so i'm going to tear it down?? WTF??? did I miss something, until we are D'd you can't do anything with or to marital property...then he's like get it out of your head we are never going to work out...I know my bad, brought up r/m...but I was just like, I think we should hold off decisions about the house until we decide what is going to happen. A few days later I text him and just said, I can have a pool co. come out and fix the pool or a bulldozing company come tear it down, let me know what you need from me...haven't heard another word out of him about the pool.

As for the credit card....well that story, is just way too dramatic...if you're board you can read thru some threads...if not...well...let's just say pretty much the same as above.

Good idea about the coffee, except were more, go to the bar and have a beer kind of people!!! which i have done before; i guess it's been so long, and his whole anger thing...i'm just scared of rejection!

Sandi! DB coach thinks anger is some type of out cry to get back at me for leaving. The "you did this to me, so I will do this to you" mentality. He can not let go. He never has been able to let go of any part of his past. He reverts back to every wrong thing someone has done to him; I think this was the only real time I had truly hurt him...so this, therefore, is my punishment...sad I know, but I also feel, as if the way he was raised, he is incapable of dealing with emotions...father alcoholic, mother well, un-supportive is me putting things EXTREMELY nice!!!! I haven't talked to DB coach in a while, since FG has been working with me...that crazy boy....where is he hiding...oh FG!!!

So, where to go from here...It's been a week since I have msgd him, continue to back off...or continue to pursue...find a happy medium? He stated in a text 3 yes 3 weeks ago, he was going to his L...still haven't heard from mine...so finding that statement hard to believe. I don't think there is a 3 week turn around...at least not where i am from!!! LOL!!!! I figured a week to get into L, then a few days for our L's to chat, then I would have heard from mine...long story short...H is full of sh*t!!!!!!!! :D...I honestly don't think he knows what the hell he wants...

So, I will keep on trucking! Got school to keep me busy, and work if i'm bored!! I cut back my hours, as school has become really overwhelming...and my education needs to take a priority at this time in my life. I'm not paying the big bucks to repeat courses!!!!!

So, for now, I will just keep praying for the crazy little H....Let the Man in charge take care of some of this, He's the one in control!!! I am doing my part down here....and leaning on Him to do His part from above

ITH and Sandi thanks for the great input!!! hugs 2 you both

Christa