I'm not sure I understand why you would not want to tell D26 what the hearing is really for. Isn't there a way to inform her, without saying disparaging things about TJ? Can't it be a matter-of-fact statement like, "The hearing will not be for the final divorce. It's in regards to support." Period.
I know you are walking a fine line. Just be careful with your daughters. I find my sons become more upset if they are uninformed or left out of the loop. Your girls are all young adults. You may not be able to protect them from the ugliness of divorce. Let her decide for herself why her father may have said what he said to her. Just keep doing what is right and good.
Hang in there.
Spitfire
Always do right. This will gratify some people, and astonish the rest. Mark Twain
