Hey...I played lacrosse. Anyway, W is walking around with feathers all fluffed. Indifference again. This is still difficult. Although I am much better, being a card carrying H and father will never make this easy. Even after all this time here, it is hard to comprehend how they never let the anger go...and hold so much against the person who created life with them and even showed love after threatened false arrest.
Trying to keep moving forward. FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
You're not a cheechako anymore if you made it through the winter of '83-'84! You only have to make it through one winter to be an "honorary Alaskan".
I was there from 67-70. I want to go back and visit. We use to go camping every weekend at Nancy Lake....out by this dinky little town called Wasilla. And I mean dinky! Guess everyone will have heard of Wasilla by now, thanks to Sarah Palin.
Going back to Alaska is on my Bucket List.
Have a good one!
Spitty
Always do right. This will gratify some people, and astonish the rest. Mark Twain
OK. I may have misunderstood your post. Maybe you are still a cheechako if you didn't stay through the winter. Sorry! I'm not a careful reader sometimes.
Spitty
Always do right. This will gratify some people, and astonish the rest. Mark Twain
Great post. My favorite town names are Eggegik and Anuktuvuk.
Anyway...my W hates my guts. I am a total liar in her words. I tried to talk to her tonite about the house and foreclosure, having her come up with a homework plan, etc. It was redirected at me. She made faces...rolled her eyes..redirected that I am driving this. When it got back to why, she threatened me with harassment, got up and threatened to leave the house,
It's'impossible living here. Talk about trying to communicate and co-parent.
She hates my guts.Well...it was a fun choice: live with OMs or file and have this.
FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
I want to thank all of you who have called me and also listened to ME when I've called to reach out for help. I am going thru tough times right now with a very angry W who says everything I say is a lie and the last two years of behavior is gone.
It is still very difficult to process. One thing is sadly clear..she has closed all lines of communication. FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
Back to Spitty..remind me to tell you how I almost fell off a cliff on a 'simple' overnight hike thru Eagle Pass in the Chugach Mts. We started out as it began to snow and within 1 1/2 hours we were nearly buried. FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
FIB, I am so sorry you are going through a tough time. Try to keep your conversations with her to the bare minimum. Keep it impersonal and businesslike.
She is in lala land and nothing you say is going to make a difference. You know the truth. Hold onto it. Doesnt matter what she says, she cant change it.
...Anyway...my W hates my guts. I am a total liar in her words. I tried to talk to her tonite about the house and foreclosure, having her come up with a homework plan, etc. It was redirected at me. She made faces...rolled her eyes..redirected that I am driving this. When it got back to why, she threatened me with harassment, got up and threatened to leave the house....
FIB
I think if the opportunity presents itself and you think you can accomplish it emotionally...a calm, matter-of-fact reminder of just how the cow ate the cabbage is due.
You can't skirt around the edge of the tunnel with her or you'll end up getting dragged in, FIB.
I just don't know how she manages to stay locked in this stage for so long...
She's either very, very naive or very, very scared.
Denial, deflecting and eye-rolling show her immaturity and her unwillingness to accept responsibility for her actions.
Her sense of entitlement is also bewildering.
Hang in there, FIB.
One of you has to be grounded and it looks like it still has to be you.
You only have to make it through one winter to be an "honorary Alaskan".