Navy Wife--The Toughest Job In The Fleet

[S.T. _I Made It!]

well, looks like I missed the letter critiquing. I agreed mostly with Nik, and whoever made the big comments before her.

I would almost leave that first paragraph out. Because, depending where HE is in his own sitch, this makes it sound like your expecting him to stay M to you (and we are in a way because we have faith that God is bringing him home, but HE may not be sure yet) and it can trigger guilt because it's like your trying to get him to see how much you've been through and how long, etc.

I think someone already said this, but your comment on putting the kids first, when he needing more "me". I think that you need to say we needed more "WE".

well, it may be too late for my input, but oh well.

on the bible. I'm not for or against. Him saying he's not ready for church, it's because he is still living in his sin, so to say. He hasn't asked forgiveness for himself or from you, so even if he has cut off from the OW mostly, he's still living in it.

oh, your comment on the forgiveness, I would only say, (and leave out the other, because it's like your assuming he's wanting forgiveness) "H, no matter what happens, I want you to know that I offer my forgiveness to you, and I hope that you are able to do the same for me. (this could be where you could apologize for your contribution- but don't over explain)

oh, I also agree to not say that you will give him the bills and discipline to do (and discipline should be a joint effort anyways), but be more vague in saying I took control of the kids and finances instead of letting you be the head of the household and lead us as a family as you should have been able to do.

okay, guess I wrote more than I meant! It took me 5 hours to write this as I got distracted and had to come back, so who knows what's been written since! I will check now though.