W sent me a text telling me not to "interrogate" D and that D should not be my confidant. She also said if I wanted to know anything about this "guy" I could ask her and she'd tell me. She finally said he is willing to meet me so I can know "the kind of man he is" and D "adores him."
Well, that is nice, but I answered W telling her I was only concerned w/ his sleeping over in front of Grace as we were told explicitly not to do that and I didn't interrogate Grace, but only asked where James slept. I finished by saying she's not my confidant, but she is my D and I'm concerned w/ what she's exposed to.
W replied that D asked him to stay last night and that W had her female friends sleep over and D had had a friend sleep over so it was all the same in D's eyes.
I completely disagree and told W that my concern was that he slept w/ her in her bed w/ Grace in the house. That is where the line is crossed in my eyes.
As for the two of them, I hope they have the best, most enjoyable sex and they're truly happy together. Honesetly, I do. But if they're not guaranteed to get married, I don't want this paraded in front of my D. It is too risky for her and too potentially damaging.
