hey you did nt run me off and i liked everything you said. i have been real busy with the kids and the W. they are all sick and it doenst seem to want to leave so i have been trying to help them as best i can. i do not intend on ever becoming the person i was and i am going to have a lot of work left with me and the W. we have been getting along great and really just doing a lot of talking just about things going on in our lives and what we feel we need to do to keep this going. we have seen the C a couple of times and he has giving us some things to do on how to communacate and just love one another. it is late and i need to get my kids in bed and get things ready for tomorrow. my oldest stared pre school and she seems to really like it but that means i have to get up earlier. thank you guys fr chiming in and i dont take anything the wrong way i know what everyone ne is saying is just things to help me. im not saying that i already know what to do but i have a good idea and will continue to come here for advise. i will try and check in more ferquently. again thanks for the advise and i will put it all to good use. sorry for the bad writing skills