I will talk to a divorce coach as well as my therapist. I just have to move on and am trying to get there, but I still am in the house and have three kids that I live for. I am the sole provider for my family and must deal with my wife everyday.
At this point, I can not go elsewhere, nor do I want to leave at this juncture to preserve my rights as a father and to the martial home.
You are correct as detaching is the key and I will make strides to get there, but its tough with her smug attitude staring at me in the face everyday. I will keep up to date as things progress.