Robert G, sucks to be here for sure. I wish I could tell you some good things, but as Winston Churchill said in WWII, all I can offer you is blood, toil, tears, and sweat. Best advice I can give you is to detach totally. I realize this will be super tough for you to do, as the wounds are very raw right now, but let me tell you from nearly 3 years battle hardened experience, any efforts by you to pursue or anything like that will only make things that much harder on you. She will suck you into the drama if you will let her, she is also going to re-write your marriage, be mean as hell to you, and blame you for everything coming and going. (These are future things I am talking to you about, not yet) I promise you will have a much better chance and more peace of mind if you just let it all go and let whatever happens happen.
