I see it is still the same ole thing with your H...really sweetie I think you are WAYYYYYYYYY better off without him in your life...could you really in your heart trust him again? Only you can answer that one.
As for the whole texting thing...I think I would turn off my text messaging. Then I would email him and tell him that I would not longer, under any circumstances text him again, that I only would use email to communicate the needs of the children and his financial responsibility to me and them...I would declare that I am not his friend but that I will continue to give him the respect he deserves as the father of the kids...that I expect the same respect from him (no more flirting with me) that I wish for him to leave me alone...he has made his bed and he can sleep in it with her for all I care...(I think I would be done by now if I were you)
I would tell him that the only phone calls he would get from me would be emergency calls regarding the children...anything else can wait for email...
I would also tell him that when he calls to talk to the kids...that is fine...but don't ask to speak to me unless it is about them...don't ask how I am doing because if you cared you wouldn't be doing this and if you don't know by now how I am doing then you are just plain stupid and I don't have room for stupid in my life!...don't call to check on me...don't come by to visit me...LEAVE ME ALONE...you have OW to talk to...to care about...to text...to go home to...to ask about her day...again, LEAVE ME ALONE...
I would push this SOB so far away he might fear dropping off the edge of the earth...and I wouldn't be doing it to create a change in him...I would be doing it because I respect myself and no longer need a dog like this to hump my leg!
Sorry this sounds harsh, but sweetie you continue to let him put you through the ringer...there comes a time when you need to say enough and not fear what happens after that...and from what I see the sooner the better for you and those darling children of yours...
