hey ITH...I didn't see your post sorry! Backslides are all part of this and I think that everyone has them. I guess that's why some of us (those without S in MLC) are here.
We can all do this you know. If we don't save our M we will at least be much better prepared for the future.
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
You are so much better now than during your M. You know why? You are more self-aware. You know where your own problems are and you are working on them. That's what is most important in all of this.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
I put the rubber band on my wrist a couple of months back...maybe I shouldn't have taken it off.
I think I am much better than I was. I really need to keep goals in mind and that way I have something to think about if I get upset.
I agree, with your realization - keep you eyes on the prize!! As someone else mentioned - you should feel lucky that your xh actually tells you when something bothers him. Many of us here don't have that.
Me39, XH45 Kids 3 dogs, 2 cats Divorced 6/4/09 Tricky thing is not how you live, but how you live with yourself. (POTC)
Yes he is very open with me. I guess he tells me what upsets him because he cares. He said on Friday night that he doesn't but I know he does. I think he's protecting himself from the hurt I have caused him.
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
Morning (((Jen))) Just catching up a bit. It was a bit of a backslide, although I am not sure I wouldn't have done the same thing (2x4 to self). Just lay low for a few days, I am sure EA will tell XH about your apology and that will smooth things a bit. But continue to do what you have been doing. It is okay for you to GAL and you have been doing great at it. These backslides are setbacks, but we all do them. I think sometimes it just gets too much for us to handle, and we blow. But that is part of human nature. Pick yourself, dust yourself, and get back on the wagon!!!
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
I'm real good at backslides. Now I need to get better and preventing them
I actually told him I sent her a message to apologize for calling and she apologized if she hurt me by calling him too. He said it didn't make any difference. I told him I didn't apologize to her for him. I did it for me. I feel much better about the whole EA now. By her response to me it's clear that there is nothing between them. I over thought the whole thing. Even though it did happen I think after Friday night I have finally put it behind me.
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
The Four of Swords card suggests that my power today lies in recovery. Our mutual losses or experience deserve to be acknowledged or remembered with dignity, honor, and respect even as we regroup to move forward. I am willing to work on forgiveness and letting go of the past in order to find peace. It's time to give it a rest. I am empowered by stillness and my virtue is silence.
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
